What If It’s Not Just Menopause Making You Feel This Way?  

Feeling foggy, fatigued, and inflamed? Waking up every few hours at night, struggling with weight gain, joint pain, or mood swings? You're not alone—but it might not be just perimenopause or menopause.  

In this video, I explore an often overlooked piece of the puzzle that could be making hormonal shifts feel a lot worse. Our mothers didn’t seem to struggle this much—so what’s changed? I’ll share what I’ve discovered in my own health journey and what may be silently affecting your bones, sleep, energy, and overall well-being.  

👉 Don’t miss this one if you’ve tried all the "hormone-balancing" solutions and still feel off.  

💬 Let me know in the comments if you’ve ever thought, “This can’t just be menopause!”  

If you’re 45 or older and a woman, chances are you’ve struggled with a number of symptoms that seemed to come out of nowhere and whack you over the head. A simple google or social media search leads us to believe it’s related to perimenopause and menopause. But is it? I have some interesting data that I uncovered trying to address my own symptoms.

Men, this might also somewhat describe you or help you in assisting your female partner who is experiencing these challenges.

For years I’ve been trying to resolve my own issues with many of these symptoms, through diet, lab tests, considered HRT, exercise and more.

At the same time I have asked why my mom didn’t experience much of thinner her friends. They didn’t sit around talking about it like later generations have and are.

About 4 months ago, while exploring the Carnivore and a strong KETO eating protocol to help heal my body, I discovered Oxalates. Oxalates are typically only tied to kidney stones, unless you do a deeper dive. The data is out there, yet many or even most doctors have no clue. Mine didn’t.

If you’ve watched any of my other videos, I’ve shared my story of Oxalate overload or toxicity. I’ll link a video here but in a nutshell, oxalates are a naturally occurring toxin found in plants, vegetables, fruits, seeds and nuts. Why? Defense mechanism that allows the plant to live and procreate. Nothing is wrong except that we….humans….were not meant to eat some of these plants, and for sure not in the quantities we do.

Top offenders: spinach, almonds including almond products, chia and hemp seeds, more than 1/4 cup or so of most nuts, raspberries, sweet potatoes, nightshades, dark chocolate and cacao powder and black tea. Eeek - a large part of my diet for over a decade.

I asked chat GPT to help me sort this out and here is what I asked:

What are the common symptoms of peri menopause and menopause? And what are the common symptoms of oxalate overload and toxicity? What are the correlating symptoms?

I’d like to us to research and explore if menopause symptoms might in fact actually be undiagnosed oxalate issues. My mom and her friend group did not complain or discuss menopause symptoms even close to what we experience today.

!! I am not a doctor, nor is chat gpt. I am a nutrition coach and personal body hacker and researcher. I encourage you to listen and then do your own research as this is not medical or nutritional coaching advice. Simply me sharing my own experiences and research.!!

“You're raising a fascinating and increasingly important question. Many women today report more intense perimenopausal and menopausal symptoms than prior generations—yet this might not be solely hormonal. Environmental, dietary, and metabolic factors (like oxalate toxicity) may be significant contributors or even root causes of symptoms that are commonly attributed to hormonal changes.

Let’s break it down:”

Do any of these fit you?

🔥 COMMON SYMPTOMS OF PERIMENOPAUSE & MENOPAUSE

• Hot flashes and night sweats
• Insomnia
• Mood swings, anxiety, irritability, or depression
• Low libido
• Vaginal dryness and urinary tract issues
• Weight gain, especially belly fat
• Fatigue and brain fog
• Hair thinning or loss
• Joint and muscle pain
• Irregular or heavy periods (perimenopause only)
• Heart palpitations
• Dry skin and eyes
• Loss of bone density

What we hear is: These are mostly driven by declining estrogen and progesterone:

⚠️ COMMON SYMPTOMS OF OXALATE OVERLOAD / TOXICITY

Oxalates are naturally occurring compounds in many plant foods. When they accumulate in the body, they can trigger a wide range of systemic issues:

• Muscle and joint pain (often misdiagnosed as fibromyalgia or arthritis)
• Chronic fatigue
• Brain fog, memory issues
• Insomnia
• Mood swings, anxiety, or depression
• Frequent urination, bladder pain (IC)
• Vulvodynia or vaginal pain
• Skin rashes or itching
• Eye irritation or dryness
• Heart palpitations
• Nutrient deficiencies (especially calcium, magnesium, B6, zinc)
• Tingling, numbness, nerve pain
• Digestive issues: bloating, grainy stools, stomach pain
• Oxalate “dumping” symptoms: sudden flare-ups, especially during diet changes

Here is a chart showing the overlapping symptoms.

🔗 OVERLAPPING / CORRELATING SYMPTOMS

Here’s a quick comparison:

💡 INTERPRETATION

Your question about your mom’s generation not experiencing intense symptoms is valid. Possibilities include:

1. Different diet: Your mother likely ate fewer high-oxalate foods (e.g., almond flour, spinach smoothies, chia seeds), which have surged in modern "healthy" eating.
2. Less toxin exposure: Fewer endocrine disruptors (plastics, glyphosate, synthetic body care products) that worsen hormonal dysregulation and oxalate metabolism.
3. More mineral-rich diets: Traditional foods (organ meats, dairy, broth) supported detox pathways and mineral balance better than modern depleted diets.
4. Underreporting or cultural stoicism: While possible, it likely doesn’t explain the massive jump in symptom prevalence.

🧬 A CLOSER CONNECTION?

Estrogen may actually protect against oxalate damage. As estrogen declines:

• Gut permeability may increase, allowing more oxalates into the bloodstream.
• Liver sulfation and detox pathways may slow.
• Oxalate dumping may become more symptomatic.

So rather than seeing menopause as the “cause,” it could be the trigger that unmasks underlying oxalate load, nutrient depletion, and detox dysfunction.

🧭 WHAT TO DO?

If you’re curious whether oxalates are behind your symptoms, consider:

• Reducing high-oxalate foods slowly and gently (no cold turkey). Linked it my video on the mistake I made
• Supporting sulfur pathways (Epsom salt baths, taurine, glycine, B6).
• Ensuring adequate calcium and magnesium with meals.
• Tracking symptoms across both oxalate and hormonal patterns.

Then I asked “What is the correlation between oxalates and degrading bone density which might lead to osteoporosis?”

The connection between oxalates and bone density loss (osteoporosis) is very real—but widely overlooked. Oxalates can silently deplete key minerals and interfere with how your body builds and maintains bone, especially during and after menopause when bone loss naturally accelerates.

Let’s explore the key mechanisms:

🦴 How Oxalates Contribute to Bone Density Loss:

1. Oxalates Bind to Calcium

• Oxalates form insoluble crystals with calcium (calcium oxalate), especially in the gut, kidneys, joints, and bones.
• This reduces calcium bioavailability—even if your diet contains enough calcium, much of it may not be absorbed if oxalates are high.

🧂 Impact: Your body may draw calcium from bones to maintain blood levels, slowly weakening your skeleton.

2. Triggers Mineral Deficiency

Oxalates can also bind to and deplete:

• Magnesium – critical for bone formation, calcium regulation
• Zinc – helps osteoblast function (bone building)
• Silica – essential for bone flexibility and collagen matrix
• Boron – regulates calcium/magnesium and supports estrogen

❗Even if you're taking supplements, oxalate overload can reduce absorption or cause increased excretion of these minerals.

3. Disrupts Vitamin D Metabolism

• Oxalates can accumulate in kidneys, impairing conversion of vitamin D into its active form (1,25-D).
• Vitamin D is critical for calcium absorption and bone health.

⚠️ Low active vitamin D = low calcium absorption, even if levels look “normal” on basic labs.

4. Induces Chronic Inflammation

• Oxalate crystals are highly inflammatory, leading to oxidative stress in bones and joints.
• Chronic inflammation disrupts bone remodeling, causing more resorption (breakdown) than formation.

5. Estrogen Loss Exacerbates Oxalate Impact

• Estrogen helps regulate calcium balance and inhibits bone resorption.
• During menopause, estrogen drops → bones become more vulnerable.
• If oxalate levels are high, the risk of rapid bone loss skyrockets.

📊 Clinical Clues Suggesting Oxalate Involvement in Osteoporosis:

•  History of kidney stones, especially calcium oxalate
• Muscle pain, joint stiffness, or tingling
• Low calcium/magnesium/zinc despite supplementation
•  Digestive issues + high-oxalate diet (spinach, almond flour, chia, beets, sweet potatoes, etc.)
• Postmenopausal bone loss that progresses quickly, even with hormone or supplement support

🧭 What Can You Do?

🔧 Strategy for Bone Health if Oxalates Are Suspected:

1. Lower oxalate intake gradually (don’t go cold turkey)
2. Take calcium citrate with meals (binds oxalates in the gut)
3. Ensure adequate magnesium, vitamin D3/K2, boron, zinc
4. Use collagen/gelatin or bone broth to support bone matrix
5. Track urinary oxalates if you want more clarity (OAT or 24hr oxalate test)
6. Weight-bearing and resistance exercise to stimulate bone formation

So, what do you think? Have you struggled or are you struggling with these symptoms? Could it be more than just the doom and gloom of being a woman? Can diet potentially correct this and take you back to a vibrant, functional., happy thriving female?

Men, this can also affect you.

At SBG meat I asked dr Robert Kiltz about HRT and his thoughts. Catch my video on what he shared and what I learned from the Doctors Panel here.

I don’t want to be on something for the rest of my life, medication or even bio identical if I can find a resolution some other way.

Make sure you are subscribed so you catch my upcoming video on the diet changes and supplements I am taking to combat this issue, clear my tissues, joints, muscles and bones of these stored oxalates and heal myself.

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